Why do women have the capacity to love bountifully and generously?
I came across a little gem by Eckhart Tolle recently and I extracted a portion of it as it explicitly exemplifies the core of the transformative process we all need to go through if we are to align with the larger evolutionary impulse of life:
“…Women are regaining the function that is their birthright: to be a bridge between the manifested world and the Unmanifested, between physicality and spirit. Your main task as a woman now is to transmute the pain-body so that it no longer comes between you and your true self, the essence of who you are…” –Eckhart Tolle
From the beginning of time, we have been inside of the impulse of evolution, and, currently, we are waking up to this impulse consciously and can partner with the intelligence that is driving it. One of the fundamental tasks to initiate your own development is to master your emotions. To masters your emotion, you have to transform the way you relate to them. It is the Feminine, as Eckhart Tolle points out, that is at the leading edge (at the heart) of this transformation.
Women are the bridge between the manifest and the Unmanifest; their bodies are designed to be a vessel for new life. In the moment of birth, women’s bodies are the bridge and the receptacle for new form. Any woman who has given birth has experienced surrendering in order to become one with the forces of nature. In my experience of both giving birth to a child and then losing him (24 years later), I found myself being a bridge in both circumstances. My body’s experience of his birth and his death was remarkably similar. The pain was viscerally equal.
This fortitude catapulted me into a much deeper and larger awareness and knowing of myself.
It caused me to grow and develop myself to be the midwife of my own internal emotional process. I learned to allow my emotions to be fully present (and I’m talking about very strong and powerful emotions here!), while simultaneously, supporting, assisting, embracing and holding myself. Being with myself in this way was somewhat organic, and then, I eventually continued doing it more consciously and deliberately.
I found myself not being able to do anything BUT surrender to a force of life larger than my mind, my ego. As I allowed myself to surrender more and more, I was able to “get out of the way” of a process much greater than my mind could conceive, and become the witness of whatever was unfolding inside and around me.
I became the giver and the receiver, the witness and that which I was witnessing. I was the strong and powerful emotions and the one who was witnessing and, then, processing the emotions.
I become the nurturer and caregiver to the deeply hurt part of myself.
As I went along through this emotional “pilgrimage”, I became more and more proficient at it. I also supported myself by anchoring some very valuable skills I was developing through the work I began with the Feminine Power teachings and principles.
Process:
~ I become aware, and then present with my feelings / emotions
~ I witnessed the emotions / feelings from an aware, compassionate and allowing standpoint.
~ I accepted all my feelings and myself for feeling them
~ At the beginning just doing that was enough as I felt an enormous amount of love from a deep place inside toward myself
~ As I journeyed along, I then engaged in a Transformative process that helped me transform whatever part of my sense of self from the past was no longer needed as part of my developmental and evolutionary process.
~ I was transmuting the residue of my old consciousness that was being triggered by the enormous amounts of grief I was experiencing. The content of the reservoir of my subconscious was floating to the surface after the internal ‘Tsunami’.
I journeyed inside of myself for the last two and a half years closer and closer to the truth of my Being: I am here to claim my destiny – the highest meaning of why I was born: To be a woman of substance, to experience my highest capacities and my deepest truth. I am here to express my authentic, uncompromised, delicate, unwavering, fierce fullness of Being. I am here to create beauty everywhere I go. I am here to contribute to the never-ending conscious collective field of love!
I know this in my deepest layers of my Being!
I have found this Field of Truth inside of me, which is one and the same as the Larger Collective Field of Life!
Medea
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Dear Medea,
Your journey, and who you have become because of it and in spite of it continue inspire me beyond words. From the boundless joy of holding your newborn son, to the unfathomable pain of both losing him and then doing the deep work of letting him go have somehow coalesced inside of you and become a palpable healing power that flows from your sharing. I love how you have used delicate AND fierce as expressions of the fullness of your being. Your description allows me to feel the deep delicate self care required to take a fierce stand in the world.
I’m so honored to be in community with you,
Bentley
Your Blog is so powerful and inspirational and I found that it also helped me,
a man deal with my grief and feelings of deep loss. I really felt connected to
what you said in Emotional Wisdom about needing to get out of the way of a
force much greater then my mind or ego could conceive, and surrender…that is
so helpful and feels like so the right path. Thanks Medea for putting this
great transformational work out to all of us, you are really tapping in to
what so many of us need to hear to heal and grow!
Your wisdom and beauty permeate your teachings…when we consider ‘What needs to be done?’ you are on the frontline.
Thank You, Medea.
Thank You.
I am sensing your ‘fierce fullness of being’ and the beauty that you are gifting us with, and I’m deeply touched. Thank you for your intimate sharing and expanding my breathing being.
Much love, Gail